Final Friday with the old commander, which means a final crud game. Crud is essentially full contact pool played in teams without the pool on a snooker table. I outweight everyone else in the game by at least 20 lbs, so I like this game. Now this is really the first time I've seen the commander since my deployment idea was shot down, and I want to say I'm over it, but i still took it a little personnal. So all the things that happened, like her showing up an hour late to the going away crud game that she scheduled, I just took as yet another sign that I was right and she was wrong. Real mature I know, but what can i say, I tried to put my filter on, and I just couldn't manage it.
It put an interesting spin on things in my mind though. I'm sure I've pissed people off before. Maybe not to the same degree, but upset none the less. Whats the best way to resolve that kind of conflict? What do I want in this situation? What should i do in this situation?
Ultimately, it all comes down to pulling the person aside and talking to them. Without any open sincere communication, people are going to take things like this personally, when it really and truely is not a personal decision. Even though you don't want to, and even though it may be awkward and uncomfortable, you got to pull people aside and give them a chance to vent.
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